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The characters Ross, Chandler and Joey from the hit show Friends, exemplifying for my trans ftm readers how men speak

Hello, fantastic readers! We're embarking on an exciting exploration today: delving deep into how men communicate in everyday situations. We're not just scratching the surface; we're diving into the nitty-gritty with real-life examples and insights. Whether you're trying to better understand your male friends, colleagues, or family members, or just curious about different communication styles, this deep dive is for you. Let's unravel the mystery of men's communication!

Straightforward Words for FTM Voice Training: The Directness in Men's Verbal Communication

Men often favor a no-nonsense, direct approach in their verbal interactions. For example, in a work environment, when discussing project deadlines, a male manager might say, "We need the report by Friday, no exceptions," emphasizing efficiency and clear expectations. This is in line with Mehl et al.'s 2007 study in Science, which suggests that men use language more for assertive, task-oriented communication【1】.

In social settings, this directness can also be observed. At a sports bar, a man might straightforwardly comment, "That was a terrible call!" instead of cushioning his opinion in softer language or elaborative expressions.

The Unspoken Tale: Reading Men's Body Language

Men's body language can be more subtle and controlled. Consider a scenario at a networking event: a man might express his confidence not through broad, expansive gestures but through a firm handshake, steady eye contact, and a straight, upright posture. Schmid Mast's 2007 research in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin supports this, indicating that men's non-verbal cues are often more restrained【2】.

Even in romance, men’s body language tends to be less about flamboyant gestures and more about protective, solid actions. For instance, a man might show his interest through consistent physical proximity, a protective hand on the back, or by maintaining a focused, engaged posture during conversation.

Actions as Expressions: The Behavioral Language of Men

Men's actions often speak volumes about their feelings and intentions. Take a family setting, where a father might not frequently verbalize his affection for his children but shows it through actions like fixing their broken toys, attending their sports games, or working late to provide for their needs. This aligns with Koenig et al.'s 2011 study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, highlighting men's preference for instrumental actions as a form of communication【3】.

In friendships, this might be seen in a man offering practical help, like assisting in a move or helping to fix a car, as a way of showing care and support, rather than engaging in long emotional discussions about the friendship.

Integrating the Pieces

By recognizing these facets of male communication – their direct language, understated body language, and action-oriented approach – we can gain a richer, more nuanced understanding of how men express themselves in various contexts. This deeper insight helps in building stronger, more empathetic relationships with the men around us.

Here's to embracing these insights and learning more about how to improve our FTM voice training while keeping informed and connected about our interactions in our everyday lives!


  1. Mehl, M.R., et al. (2007). Are Women Really More Talkative Than Men? Science.

  2. Schmid Mast, M. (2007). On the Importance of Nonverbal Communication in the Physician-Patient Interaction. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin.

  3. Koenig, A.M., et al. (2011). Has Gender Equality Progressed? Men’s and Women’s Attitudes Toward Stereotypical Male, Female, and Cross-Gendered Roles. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.


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